Happy new year everyone! I hope you had a nice New Years Eve celebration, wether it was just relaxing alone at home or doing something fun with friends and family. I spent it performing with my band at Le Coucou, an elegant and welcoming restaurant downtown Manhattan.
Do you have any New Years Resolutions? I don’t, but I do have a few things I would like to make happen this year, which got me thinking about goals.
I love setting goals for myself so I have something to aim for. But after nearly a decade in New York City I realize with each year passing that appreciating the journey to the goals is equally important as - if not more important than - reaching the goals, whatever they may be.
There are a few aspects to what I mean by this. For example, I think about the goals I have had for my music career; For me, what is fun to reminisce about are all the different situations and people I’ve met and what they have showed me about the world and also about myself. The memories along the way are equally as satisfying to think about as the fact that I/we reached certain goals. If you didn’t take time to be a nice person and to have fun along the way to reach your goal, how will you feel when you reach it? I want to be present in the moment. Appreciating and respecting my environment.
Goals that are hard - and maybe impossible- build character, and they also force you to inspect what you are willing to sacrifice to reach them; I definitely don’t plan to be that person who always had to miss family occasions because of work. I also am not the person that will lie, steal and tear others down to reach my goals. New York has enough of those people already! :)
I know I’ve had a few goals that I decided not to pursue because I felt like the journey to that goal wouldn’t make me happy. It’s very freeing to say no to situations and environments that I sense aren’t right for me; it frees up time for new goals that sometimes turn out to be better than my initial wants.
The journey to your goals is actually your life and in turn how people remember you. The goals themselves may just end up being a few sentences in your bio when it comes down to it.
So enjoy and accept your unique journey and remember:
the day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.
…or maybe it is, in a way? #moments :)