Last week I stumbled over what must be one of the saddest sentences I’ve ever read: “Hope is just delayed disappointment”. It’s so dark to me, also because I find that sentence to carry truth in it. But I don’t agree with it fully. Because yes, hope can be a form of delayed disappointment half the times or even nine times out of ten, but not every single time. What makes hoping worth it is that one time something works - that makes all those other delayed disappointments into stepping stones to your success. But I realize it’s easier to take that view looking back, of course. And I guess it also depends what it is you’re hoping :) Hope you’re having a good day and that all your dreams come true. Xo, Seena
Hope I can inspire you today to stress down and go at your own pace with whatever project you are working on. Your well being matters just as much as the end result - if not more :) Namaste <3
Are you a big Oprah-fan, like me? If yes then I’m sure you know about the ‘What I Know For Sure’ column in O-magazine. If you have no clue what I’m talking about let me quickly explain that it’s a column Oprah was inspired to write after getting asked the question of what she knew for sure. It’s also something she asks her interview subjects very often. So, inspired by Oprah here is a list of a few things I know for sure.
It’s better to sleep on it if you can. If you have the opportunity to not rush your decision, you’re not going to regret taking an extra day making sure you’re making the right decision.
People can have slightly different perceptions of reality. It’s good to remind yourself of this once in a while as it makes it easier not to take things personally.
You can’t take back what you said or wrote. Think twice.
The road to success is not a straight line to the top.
Goals and dreams can change over time, and once you’ve reached one goal you very often have even more goals and dreams already lined up on your to-do list.
Money can not buy health nor the feeling of being content with what you have over time, no matter how much you have.
I feel happier when I exercise.
You teach people how to treat you. If something is unacceptable to you, let them know.
Life is full of surprises and curveballs for better and worse.
I’ve never regretted it when I’ve said ‘no’ to something to take care of myself physically or mentally.
For me it’s better to say ‘yes’ to fewer things, and then be 100% present at those things.
Do you ever reflect on why you make the choices you do?
I’m not thinking about big choices, but rather those small choices you make every day that eventually add up.
I’ve reflected a bit on this and I’ve realized that there are as many “correct” answers to what good everyday choices are, as there are people.
Therefore the point I want to make with this post is that I think it’s a good idea to once in a while double check if what you are choosing to do is based on what you know for sure is correct for you.
Or are you making some of those choices because you think that that’s the only right way to go about things since those choices are working for someone else?
You are not that other person, so it’s not 100% sure that even if you follow the exact same choices as them (for example with your diet and exercise), you will have the exact same results.
A big part of life is discovering what works for you and then respecting that.
The picture above is from a gig with my jazzband this previous Sunday. xoxo, Seena
With the weekend right around the corner I thought I’d make a short list of reasons of why I don’t drink right now. I should mention I have a normal history and relationship with alcohol, but right now I just don’t miss it in my life. Here is why:
I don’t prioritize going out and drinking. Those things are just not possible for me because they come so far down on my want-to-do list right now that other things take their place. I’d much rather get in an extra work out or give my body restitution. I know I know - I’m a really exciting person :) haha. There’s just not time for everything.
I don’t think it’s healthy for me. I believe in alkalizing my body as much as possible and even though I often eat foods that are not alkalizing I just can’t stomach the idea of pouring more acidic substance into my body. Alcohol is very acidic.
I just don’t feel like it at the moment. I stopped drinking when I started doing ashtanga yoga a few years ago. Somehow I suddenly just didn’t feel like it anymore. Before that I was going out and drinking like ‘normal’ people. Maybe I’ll want to resume drinking in the future, but right now I'm good.
I don’t have any bad days because of hangovers.
I don’t need it to relax, calm my nerves or have fun.
Lastly I also want to add that I obviously don’t have a problem hanging out with friends and family that are enjoying themselves with drinks. We are all different. Have a great weekend everyone. S
Happy new year everyone! I hope you had a nice New Years Eve celebration, wether it was just relaxing alone at home or doing something fun with friends and family. I spent it performing with my band at Le Coucou, an elegant and welcoming restaurant downtown Manhattan.
Do you have any New Years Resolutions? I don’t, but I do have a few things I would like to make happen this year, which got me thinking about goals.
I love setting goals for myself so I have something to aim for. But after nearly a decade in New York City I realize with each year passing that appreciating the journey to the goals is equally important as - if not more important than - reaching the goals, whatever they may be.
There are a few aspects to what I mean by this. For example, I think about the goals I have had for my music career; For me, what is fun to reminisce about are all the different situations and people I’ve met and what they have showed me about the world and also about myself. The memories along the way are equally as satisfying to think about as the fact that I/we reached certain goals. If you didn’t take time to be a nice person and to have fun along the way to reach your goal, how will you feel when you reach it? I want to be present in the moment. Appreciating and respecting my environment.
Goals that are hard - and maybe impossible- build character, and they also force you to inspect what you are willing to sacrifice to reach them; I definitely don’t plan to be that person who always had to miss family occasions because of work. I also am not the person that will lie, steal and tear others down to reach my goals. New York has enough of those people already! :)
I know I’ve had a few goals that I decided not to pursue because I felt like the journey to that goal wouldn’t make me happy. It’s very freeing to say no to situations and environments that I sense aren’t right for me; it frees up time for new goals that sometimes turn out to be better than my initial wants.
The journey to your goals is actually your life and in turn how people remember you. The goals themselves may just end up being a few sentences in your bio when it comes down to it.
So enjoy and accept your unique journey and remember:
the day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.
…or maybe it is, in a way? #moments :)